Let's Work Together
Do you remember the story of the Ugly Duckling that grew up to be a beautiful swan? It's one of my favorites.
That duckling represents the quintessential late bloomer -- a creature who has to go through some major awkwardness and suffering before it can emerge into the empowered, impressive being it is meant to be.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that doesn't know what to do with late bloomers. We dismiss them as flighty, unable to commit, and not living up to their potential. There's a school of thought that if you haven't made your mark on the world by a certain age, met your ideal mate, or figured out how to accomplish your goals, you might as well resign yourself to a life of mediocrity.
Does that sound familiar? It's an easy story to buy into, but wow -- it doesn't get much more disempowering than that!
That story is 100% BS.
When late bloomers do bloom, they are often even more impressive than the average human. If you are feeling behind the curve, it's probably because some major magnificence is waiting to spring forth!
Most of us intuitively know what is right for us -- we've just gotten REALLY good at ignoring the whispers and convincing ourselves that there's another way to do it.
I get it. You might still be resistant. I'm but one voice up against what you've been hearing from society your entire life.
What if I offered to show you instead?
When I work with clients, we go straight to the source by locating your values, building accountability, and looking what's got you stuck right in the eye. I want to get you to a place where you truly feel that anything is possible. Think of me as equal parts accountability cheerleader and real-talk truth teller who calls you out on what's keeping you stuck.
Wait! How do I know if I'm a late bloomer?!
Here are some telltale signs:
- You feel like everyone mysteriously knows what to do with their life... except for you.
- You feel behind the eight ball when it comes to getting in shape, meeting the love of your life, or doing that thing (you know the one) that you've always dreamt of doing.
- You are settling for something that is far less than what you hoped your life would be.
- You've worked your butt off to get into this career, and now you are realizing that you want out. Like, yesterday.
- Suddenly everyone around you is settling down, and you feel pretty out of sync with what you are "supposed to" be doing. Its uncomfortable and anxiety provoking.
You're not alone. Some of the most famously talented people are late bloomers. But don't just take my word for it -- dig in to this list of heavy hitters:
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the difference between coaching, therapy and consulting?
In a nutshell, therapy looks at the past to fix what is broken. Consulting looks at the present with the lens of an expert trying to figure out how to fix things from a strategic standpoint. Coaching is a partnership between the coach and the client -- there is no one in the "expert" role. The focus is on moving forward and affecting positive change in your life. Want to know more? Read on.
How long does coaching usually last?
The average length of time to work with a coach varies, with 3 months on the lower end and 9 months onward on the higher end. I won't ask that you sign a contract promising to try coaching for a fixed amount of time, but I will suggest committing to at least 3 months of work if you want to see lasting change.
What does coaching require of the client?
Coaching requires you to be willing to be vulnerable, get honest with yourself, and be open to whatever arises. The most important part is that you are committed to doing the work. Like most things in life, what you get out of it is determined by what you put into it.
Where do we work together?
I work with clients virtually, over the phone, or occasionally in person if they are local to northern California.
How long are sessions and how frequently do we meet?
I start clients off with a 60-90 minute Discovery Session. In this session we take a deep dive into your values, successes, obstacles, and what's keeping you stuck. If we choose to work together following that session, we will meet biweekly for 45 minute sessions.
What form of payment do you accept?
I accept cash, Google Wallet and Venmo. Payment is due in full at the beginning of every month.
What is your cancellation policy?
I promise to always respect your time, and appreciate it that you respect mine. 24 hours notice is required in order to cancel or reschedule a session. If you do not give me 24 hours notice, this will count as a missed session and you will be charged.
Is this confidential?
All information disclosed within our sessions is 100% confidential. The only exception to this is if information regarding imminent or likely risk of danger to self or others is disclosed.
How do I know if we'll work well together?
Sign up for a free 15 minute consultation! If we're not a fit, I will happily refer you to a stellar colleague.
What is a late bloomer and how old do I have to be to consider myself one?
A late bloomer is someone who is or feels behind their peer group in some way. Or, if you ask wikipedia: "a person whose skills or talents are not visible to others until later than usual." You don't need to reach a set age to be a late bloomer. Because this term is self-defined, it can look and feel very different depending on the individual.